I think I know where you are coming from in the gifts vs love thing. While I am, in fact, a shiny slut, and I do, in fact, love gifts, they also make me feel odd, especially if the person giving it is giving it as an expression of love. Love does not equal things, in my book. So, when I get flowers and gifts of the like (as my boyfriend loves to do), and cards from my various relatives (including my sister), I'm happy to receive them, but I don't want them to take the place of actual love. It's too easy, I think, to hide behind "things" instead of deal with the real emotions and feelings of a given situation. Cards (and the giving of cards) in particular are a pet peeve. what's a card but a hyped-up money maker for Hallmark? People loved each other deeply before Hallmark came around, fer Gods' sakes, yet giving cards is seen as equal to spending time, or meeting souls, or giving really meaningful gifts, or meeting a clear need.
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Date: 2006-09-26 07:17 pm (UTC)Off of the soapbox now.