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George Hersh died this morning.

He was a revered elder and a dedicated therapist for our local Pagan community. I am way more upset by this death than I have been by others in my recent past. (There really *aren't* any deaths in my distant past - nobody died around me during my childhood.)

You'd think family members I was closer to than my former therapist would prompt more upset, but for whatever reason, not so much.

I have noticed that the deaths of people I wanted to know better but didn't get to tend to upset me more than the passing of people I knew as much as I felt I could or needed to.

Of course, it remains to be seen how well I'll take the deaths of family members I'm actually fairly close to, so maybe the point is immaterial.

I feel like I should be talking about George here, rather than myself, but you see half the problem is that I didn't GET to know him. He was my therapist, and was good about holding that boundary enough that I know almost nothing about him other than that he was a wonderful, wonderful man and I miss him terribly.

I had hoped he'd live long enough to attend my ordination, but I couldn't get off my ass to make it happen fast enough.


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Date: 2013-02-23 12:03 am (UTC)
brushwolf: Icon created by ScaperDeage on DeviantArt (Default)
From: [personal profile] brushwolf
My condolences. I think "he was a damn good therapist" is a pretty decent memorial.

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Date: 2013-02-25 09:46 pm (UTC)
jensurvivor: One for Jen (Default)
From: [personal profile] jensurvivor
Sorry to hear that. I do get the response of being upset for not having been able to get to know people before losing them.

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Date: 2013-02-25 09:48 pm (UTC)
jensurvivor: One for Jen (Default)
From: [personal profile] jensurvivor
May I ask what makes someone a therapist for the pagan community? There have been some questions in my vicinity as to whether it's good to go to someone who understands paganism, or is pagan or whether that would lead to too much 'echo chamber' and it's good enough to have someone who tolerates paganism and is otherwise a good therapist.

If you want to talk about it of course.

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Date: 2013-02-26 02:01 pm (UTC)
jensurvivor: One for Jen (Default)
From: [personal profile] jensurvivor
Wasn't looking for a yes or no? I just don't talk about spirituality or the gods with my therapist anymore. A part of that is that I don't talk about my spirituality with anyone, and another part is that she clearly thinks my spirit work is a manifestation of my dissociation. Can't say I blame her, but it means that I just don't go there.

forgive me for butting in... "but"...

Date: 2013-03-02 01:41 am (UTC)
From: [personal profile] pearlshadow
the best comment i ever heard about why george was an excellant therapist for teh pagan community was to paraphrase it.. "he could accept the statement, "yes, i DO hear the little voices however that is not where i am having a problem. "this" is what the problem/issue is... and one could progress forward from that point."

as both a practicing pagan and an elder in the community AND a licensed psychotherapit, he understood the speical situations that could arise out of ones religion and not get "hung up" that those "speical situations" were just that and not neccissairly a sign of an abnormal mind set...

Re: forgive me for butting in... "but"...

Date: 2013-03-02 07:25 pm (UTC)
jensurvivor: One for Jen (Default)
From: [personal profile] jensurvivor
Yeah, that would be nice. Thanks for elaboration.

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Date: 2013-02-27 02:38 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] camillanightshade
I am sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you are ok. big hugs


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